In honor of Father’s Day, we’re naming a movie dad who had a lasting impact on us and the particular scene that affected us most. The first scene that came to my mind was the one in Sixteen Candles in which Samantha (Molly Ringwald) opens up to her father, Jim Baker (Paul Dooley), about her crush on Jake Ryan (Micheal Schoeffling). It’s not because my older sister was/is a Ginny, it’s because I was/am a dork.
Jim: Well, if it’s any consolation, I love you. And if this guy can’t see in you all the beautiful and wonderful things that I see, then he’s got the problem.
Samantha: I know. It just hurts.
Jim: That’s why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they’d call ’em something else.
Samantha: But if I were Ginny, I’d have this guy crawling on his knees.
Jim: Well, let me tell you something about Ginny. Now, I love her as much as I love you. But she’s a different person. Sometimes I worry about her. When you’re given things kind of easily, you don’t always appreciate them. With you, I’m not worried. When it happens to you, Samantha, it’ll be forever.
Thanks, Jim. Your late-night speech got me through many a crush and made me okay with being a late-bloomer because I believed the wait was in exchange for the lasting love I would one day find being somehow sweeter.*
*Only my Jake Ryan didn’t show up the next day, and I’m still waiting. Not that I’m bitter.