Spoiler alert! If you haven’t watched the end of Emily Maynard’s “journey” on The Bachelorette and intend to, stop reading now. If you have, let’s talk about the way she handled the final dates…
It was, in my mind, the best decision ever made on the show — not to go on a date with Arie if she was sure she wanted to be with Jef. It made Jef feel special, spared Arie the embarrassment of ring shopping (wasn’t the love-potion outing enough?), and gave the audience confidence that Emily values her relationship more than making good TV. It made me wonder how past Bachelors and Bachelorettes got through that final date with the person they weren’t going to choose. How do you let someone pour his or her heart out to you, in print (there’s always some kind of journal, scrapbook, or letter), knowing that you’re going to say goodbye? Did past Bachelors and Bachelorettes truly not know who they were going to choose until after those final dates? (If so, then why are you getting engaged?) Or did they simply think not going on that last date wasn’t an option?
For me, the question is whether future Bachelors and Bachelorettes will now decide to cut the cord early. I imagine the gesture goes a long way towards helping your newly betrothed feel secure in the relationship after watching you excessively talk about how incredible a kisser another person is. Will any future Bachelor or Bachelorette ending feel as genuine if the person doing the choosing doesn’t bow out of the final date? Discuss.