Giulia Melucci, a nice Brooklyn girl and unabashed food lover (''I can count on my breasts the number of times I have missed a meal''), finds that a good man is far more elusive than a tasty homemade carbonara. I Loved, I Lost, I Made Spaghetti, sort of an Eat, Pray, Love with fewer passport stamps and more recipes, is wry, personable, and at times even snortingly funny. This may be no globe- hopping journey of self-fulfillment, but you can replicate her delectable "F--- You Cakes" (Melucci's attempt to bake her way out of an especially bad breakup) and root for a woman who learns to nourish her own stomach and soul even when her heart's been flambéed. B+

