'Mad Men' recap: Defining Moments

The man isn't after anything tawdry or tragic. He wants to marry Betty. He wants to make her happy. He wants to take her to the movies and hum 'Singin' in the Rain' on the way home. He doesn't want to meet Betty's needs, he wants to make her believe that she doesn't have any. In some sense, I think this is why Roger chose Jane instead of Joan when he had the chance. Jane represented tipsy giggles and carefree romps in the hay. I don't believe that Joan, despite her effervescent script for Peggy's Want ad, was ever just a silly girl looking for laughs. She's no Pete, that's for sure. She is the epitome of poise and competent grace. But she gloriously met Roger's needs, which meant he had to acknowledge that he had some. (We know now he gave that up after Annabel broke his heart.) With Joan he would have had to be a grown-up. Likewise, Don and Betty have serious, deep, grown-up rips in their marriage quilt. Enter Henry, and his offerings of chaise lounges and movie musicals.

If Betty laid to rest the JFK version of her husband a couple episodes ago, she started shooting at his corpse in their family room. ''I want,'' she said, taking a pause as I braced myself for the D word, ''to scream at you for ruining all of this.'' Okay, yes, scream, have it out you two! But no, alas. Don had surprised Betty by being the first up at night to soothe the baby. Betty looked touched, if mystified by Don's attentions. Too little, too late. ''You tried to fix it and there's no point...I don't love you.'' Don turned in on himself at this point, refusing to absorb her blows. ''You can't even hear me right now,'' she said. ''You're right,'' he said, before heading upstairs. He walked into their bedroom and collapsed into a chair. Oh Don.

The next morning, Don took an extra second absorbing the scene of his wife serving up breakfast for his children. Then he cut a wide berth around Betty, who shot him dagger eyes from behind the counter. ''It's cold outside,'' dear Bobby warned his father. ''I'll be fine,'' said Don. Sally, her face worried and alert, was meanwhile taking the temperature of the room.

And so, on a national day of mourning, Don sought refuge at the office, the setting where he gets to be his best self. Peggy of course was there too, tapping away on some Aqua Net copy. When Don appeared in her office he looked so unwell, like if he dared open his mouth or sink into one of her chairs he might burst into tears and beg for guidance. She invited him to sit alongside her and watch the funeral up in Mr. C.'s office. He couldn't bear it. The last scene of Don hanging up his hat in his dark, empty office, reaching for the booze, was a gut punch.

Damn. My heart hurts.

What did you all think? Were you impressed by Trudy and Pete's alliance? Do you want to see Betty with Henry? When will Roger and Jane split? What's Betty's second favorite movie?