Here's about all we know for sure about Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck's wedding, reportedly scheduled for Sept. 14 in Santa Barbara: The couple won't be pulling a Zeta-Douglas and offering exclusive photo rights to the highest bidder. Despite numerous offers from publications worldwide, the couple has turned down all requests. ''It's been a joy to say no in 20 different languages,'' Affleck rep Ken Sunshine tells the New York Daily News.
Beyond that tidbit, it's hard to separate fact from rumor regarding the wedding. Early leaks, as reported in Us Weekly, have said the reception will take place Sunday at the Bacara resort in Santa Barbara (not far from Calabasas, Calif., where Lopez married second husband Cris Judd almost two years ago), and they'll spend their honeymoon night in the Bacara's $6,400-a-night presidential suite. According to British tabloid rumors, Lopez was so steamed at the leaked locale that she went on a mole hunt, determined to find who among her wedding planners had violated a signed confidentiality oath. Still, the location of the ceremony itself remains secret. Rumor has it that the guests themselves won't know where they're going until three days before the wedding, and they'll be shuttled there from a location in Los Angeles.
The guest list, according to Us Weekly, includes 400 revelers. Among them are Matt Damon, Bruce Willis, Alec Baldwin, Colin Farrell, and Matthew Perry. Ben's brother, actor Casey Affleck (''Ocean's Eleven''), is poised to be his best man.
The New York Post quotes a friend of famed wedding gown designer Vera Wang as saying that Lopez had commissioned a gown from Wang and had asked her to recommend a designer for Affleck's wedding-day outfit as well.
Lopez had little to say about the wedding in the current issue of W magazine, in which she appears in a revealing photo spread. She does say she's looking forward to being a traditional wife and putting someone else's needs ahead of her own. ("It's about being able to feel safe somewhere. That doesn't mean I'm not a strong, independent woman. But I think when you're in a relationship, you have to submit to a certain extent.") She also dismisses again the tabloid stories about Affleck cheating on her with strippers a few weeks ago in Vancouver. ''We talk every day. I know what he does, he knows what I do. We don't have those kind of secrets,'' she says. ''We sat there and read the articles together and said, 'This is just insane.' It sounds ridiculous if you read it. It sounds so stupid!''
Nonetheless, London's Evening Standard quotes a friend of J. Lo's as saying that the couple's prenuptial agreement protects both Lopez's and Affleck's personal assets in the event of a divorce, unless Affleck cheats. Then she'd go after half of Affleck's earnings, as California law allows. ''She is not after Ben's money, she has plenty of her own. But what she does want is for Ben to give her some guarantee that he will never cheat again,'' the Evening Standard quotes the friend as saying. ''By doing it this way, she can save face by taking matters into her own hands and laying down the law. It's a smart way for her to take control and not look like the woman scorned.''