My Life, The Air Force, The Controversy

Whatever your opinion of Kelly Flinn’s forced resignation from the Air Force for adultery, this frank, insightful memoir exposes how the military is “absolutely dumbfounded about what to do about sex.” After describing her bomber-pilot training—when she says she endured sexual molestation, harassment, and the nickname “Token”—Flinn admits to judgment errors in her love life. She also calmly outlines the Air Force’s often inappropriate investigation of her case (her former lovers, for example, were questioned about her preferred sexual positions), its inconsistent decisions on other sex cases, and ways its fraternization policies could be updated intelligently. Flinn marshals her arguments so clearly and forcefully, it’s a shame she’s not fighting the enemy.